Dedicated to my mum...
Mothers are
very special women and yet they’re usually the ones we take for granted. One never
truly realises the worth of their mother until one becomes a parent then only
are they able to identify with their parents. Mothers do so much for us yet we
never truly appreciate what gets done for us.
Every morning,
a mother is up before the rest of the family, she’s the one who wakes everyone
else up for salaah, and by the time the rest of the family awakens, the
breakfast table is ready, the school lunches are packed, the work lunch is
packed, the supper is already cooked and the house is almost cleaned. Ever wondered
how all this gets done? Or is it that we just take for granted that all this
will be done for us and never really stop to consider the amount of work and
effort it takes.
They say a mother’s
love is unexplainable and I may not be a mother yet but I definitely agree with
this because I’ve realised that a mother, no matter what she may be going
through, will always put her children first.
When you lay
sick at night or cried all through the night, who was the one who had sleepless
nights and lay awake with you trying to calm you down and do her best to make
you smile? Who was the one that made sure you were comfortable at all times and
ensured that your temperature came down and your illness disappeared? Who was
the one who sat up praying all night for your health? That’s right! Your MUM
As you got
older, who taught you your first words? Who helped you take your first steps? Who
was there to catch you every time you fell on your bottom like a little lamb
trying to take its first steps?... that’s right! Your MUM
When it was
time to go to school, the very first day, who did you cry for? Your MUM and she
made sure she was right there by your side to make sure you’re alright. The hardest
thing she had to do was leave your side on that very first day but she had no
choice, it was for your own betterment... yet she never failed to wait outside
the school gate at the end of every day or never failed to wait at the door for
you to arrive so she could welcome you with a big hug and kiss and ask you all
about your day. When something was wrong, she’d run to your rescue and leave
behind everything she was doing. When she was called in to the office she
always took your part and always believed the best in you. Your first fight,
she was the one to cover your wounds and ever ready to help you fight those
battles, anything for her little baby to be safe. She’d even do all your
projects for school just so that you wouldn’t feel stressed and you’d always
get the highest because of her effort...
Then you went
on to high school... imagine how it felt to watch her baby grow up and move on
to the next phase of life... being a teenager isn’t the easiest phase in life
and almost always it’s the time when children move furthest from their parents.
I write this
from my own experience as an older teen, it’s one of the most difficult phases
that one goes through in life because it brings about uncertainty. The one
person who’s always waiting to help you when you fall is your mother. During this
time one goes through mental, physical, emotional, and hormonal changes and it
can be quite overwhelming for most and at times one just wants to be left alone
but I can assure you that it’s not the best option. I know that many teenagers,
myself included, sometimes feel like no one understands and sometimes all you
need to do is cry, or find a way to get rid of these emotions, some use anger,
tears, frustration, etc as defence mechanisms but that’s never a good thing
because over the years I’ve learnt that it’s better to say what you feel and
when you feel no one understands you, turn to your Lord, but when u want
someone to listen and just hug you, instead of a best friend sometimes the best
option is actually a mother.
We tend to
move away from our mothers and feel like they’re trying to control our life or
whatever the case may be, but the truth in fact is that mothers only want the
best for us and we may not realise it but at the end they’re always right. It took
me long to realise that my mother is always right but eventually I did, and so I
appeal to all out there especially teenagers to listen to your parents,
especially your mothers they always have the best advice.
I realise
that fathers also have good advice but sometimes they aren’t the most
understanding because quite often they worry about us financially, which is a part of their role as a father but it will always
be your mother who understands you emotionally even when you feel no one else
does, she definitely does. Talk to your mothers my dear sisters in Islam and
turn to them, don’t push them away because someday when they’re no longer there
or when you become a mother, then only would you realise the true value of a
mother.
