He is only worth it if he respects your obedience to your Lord ❤

Hijab seems to be a very controversial topic nowadays and though I have posted on this topic before I think it is important to address certain issues that constantly come up. I have recently read something and been asked to talk on the topic of "will he like me if I wear hijab" and a friend made an important point to me which was that we need to love ourselves before wanting someone to love us. I think one needs to be confident enough to adorn the hijab and remember that it is to please the Creator of the creation that you are trying so hard to please. If the Creator is happy with you then HE will open the hearts of those around you and if a brother comes along and has a problem with what the Creator has ordained for you then is he really worth it?

we are indoctrinated by the norms of today and made to believe that beauty has a criteria when really, the only criteria beauty should have is love for the Creator. I strongly believe that beauty is manifested through character and knowledge because if someone is beautiful on the inside, has a beautiful heart and mind then their outward form becomes beautified by that.

Islam came to change the norm of society and bring it back to its default position and the default position of mankind is good character, modesty and most importantly love and consciousness of the Creator. We have allowed our animalistic natures to manifest so much to the point of forgetting our humanity and allowing ourselves to drown in worldly desires. 
This unfortunately is the root of where the above mentioned question stems.

Coming from a niqabi's perspective, I think that if things are done the right way then it is more than just possible for 'him to like you with hijab' because traditionally as well as religiously, a boy and girl's family usually knows they are ready and of marrying age and look for someone suitable and they meet and can see from there if they want to pursue the relationship. Nowadays however, it seems that we have 'westernised' or 'modernised' the way in which we find partners and hence we find sisters having difficulty in adorning the hijab due to worry that they will be unable to find a suitor but let me assure you all, there is definitely a way because if you please the Creator, He will grant you someone who can help you in attaining His pleasure and someone who appreciates your effort.

As a niqabi, I have realised that it is possible for someone to fall for you by looking at your character first but yes, at the same time we all know males were created as very visual beings so though it is possible, it may get complicated, however, I don't think that any hijabi or niqabi should allow societies norms to dictate her dressing and being especially if It goes against shari'ah because what the Lord Himself obligates us to do can never be to our detriment or to make us unattractive but rather more attractive and to safeguard us because HE Knows what we NEED and He created beauty and loves beauty so may we all find the strength to please Him and may He help us to rediscover ourselves and find HIM and be directed to our default position in shaa Allah!

My Journey As a Student Of 'Ilm

Growing up I was always exposed to the traditional saying that is attributed to our beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) which states "SEEK KNOWLEDGE FROM THE CRADLE TO THE GRAVE" (though a weak chain of narration) and I grew up having firm belief in this statement and here I am today doing exactly that In-shaa-Allah. I sit today in the company of such esteemed scholars and have the opportunity of being taught by these most knowledgeable people alhamdulillah and I have no one else but Allah ta'ala to thank for that. 

The knowledge I am exposed to now forces me to think and analyse and not just accept everything that is thrown at me.

I have learnt that islam is not a religion of mere acceptance but filled with challenges to the mind. Yes there are things which are explicitly and clearly indicated but there is room for understanding as well and if this wasn't the case then there would not be so many different opinions on one issue. This room for different interpretation isn't there for us to change the deen but rather to facilitate ease for us and to make us realise that the deen and the Book is there for all eras and all ages! We should never change the deen to fit our lives but change our lives to fit the deen because the deen is made for all times and ages. Also, we should not make it hard upon ourselves because Allah ta'ala doesn't love extremism and wants ease for us! 

Most importantly, through this journey I am on I have learnt that whatever one learns, one should pass on, as it is so beautifully stated in a poem by abi ishaaq al biri on the virtues of knowledge:

يزيد بكسرة الانفاق منه    و ينقص ان به كفا شددتا

This line of poetry can be translated as "(knowledge) increases the more you spend of it and it will decrease the more you keep it to yourself" 

so my intention in-shaa-Allah is to share whatever little I do know because I am no scholar and neither do I claim to ever be one because I have a long way to go but in-shaa-Allah I am a student of ilm and hope that the little I do know can be of benefit and ignite something in the heart of even one of you reading this and I hope that with your dua and prayer I am able to be successful in fulfilling my intention ♡ 

Ameen